Love and sexuality

According to Dieter Duhm, the founder of Tamera, "The dream of a new world is not only a subjective wish, but also an authentic matrix for a different life, anchored in the structure of reality; it is an objective necessity and a possibility. The concrete utopia is a latent reality within the universe, just as the butterfly is a reality latent within the caterpillar. It lies in the structure of our physical and biological world, in our genes, and in our deeper ethical orientation."

As part of a new story or myth of the near-future, we can define a new vision of Eros - love and sexuality - which allows for the freeing of love, the fulfillment of desire, without exploitation or manipulation. This is not something that individuals can accomplish on their own. It requires a larger social rewiring. Tamera - a community in Portugal dedicated to peace work, which they believe necessarily means peace in love as well as the asbence of war - is a social laboratory for devising new relationship patterns that are nonpossessive, authentic, and transparent.

The founders of Tamera - which came out of the Leftist movements in Germany in the 1970s - discovered that core issues around love and sexuality were actually the deepest political issues that society was not yet ready to bring to consciousness and address. We are still seeing the consequences of this. We see it in horrible consequences of the global sex trade, in society's focus on issues such as abortion and sex harrassment, and the disgrace of men in leadership positions such as Bill Clinton, John Friend, Elliot Spitzer, or Roger Ailes.

In this area, we will explore the current situation around love and sexuality and also consider working alternatives to monogamy and the nuclear family structure.



Annie CharnleyIn New Zealand prostitution is decriminalised and they have a committee of prostitutes that get to talk to the government about laws that make sense for them. It's a model that could be replicated anywhere. How do we get it to our respective countries? We could email our MP's, start a petition?

Jason ParsleySince much of nature is fractally structured, and humanity is a part of nature, human collectives should behave according to chaos theory or entropy or the laws of thermodyamics. They should contain a fractal structure based on the golden mean. This structure and power dynamic will also be mirrored in the individual.

If we assume that love and hate are energies, and that love acts, feels, and is experienced one way and has certain effects, and hate acts, feels, and is experienced another way and has certain effects, we could identify loving behaviors in an almost scientifically precise way.

Looking at individual humans and then groups of humans at various scales and identifying which behaviors foster the most wellbeing for the most people and environments involved could help in identifying and labeling behaviors and attitudes, as well as adapting hateful ones.

If we adopt a mindful attitude and balance our ego with the other parts of ourselves, we can base our decisions on mutual benefit.

We can do cost/benefit analyses for certain ideas and actions. What is the probability a certain idea or action will cause disquiet, pain, trauma, or result in death? What is the probability it will result in relaxation, wellbeing, healing, or affirm life? For how many people?

I think the trick is to live in such a way that every thought and behavior brings mutual benefit to self and as many others as possible. To put it another way, love is the act of affirming life and working for the benefit of self/other.